Brian Wood - Man From Mars Coaching - Module Conclusion & Recap

Chapter 7: Conclusion & Recap

So, you have reached the end of this module with hopefully a greater understanding of how motivation works and how you can control it to achieve your goals and make your life better. 

In order to ensure that you know each step and can follow it successfully to each goal, let’s do a quick recap of each chapter and include the basics so that you have an easy reference guide whenever you need it.

Chapter One: In chapter one, we were introduced to the concept of motivation and learned a little more about how it works and how psychologists define it. There was a lot of information in that chapter about the psychology of motivation, but here are the key points that you should have learned from chapter one.

Motivation is defined basically as the force which drives you to do anything.

The three components of motivation are activation or the point in which you can the first action to achieve the goal, persistence which is how committed you are to the goal and intensity, which is how hard you are willing to work towards the goal.

Motivation can be either intrinsic or extrinsic and there are three theories as to the source of motivation: needs/drives, instincts and arousal levels.

Chapter Two: The goal of chapter two was to get you to understand some of the things that cause low levels of motivation. Those causes were divided up into four different categories which are as follows:

Habitual Beliefs: beliefs that you have believed for so long that it can be almost impossible to change your mind about them. Sometimes, these beliefs can affect motivation.

Habitual Behaviors: Behaviors that keep you unmotivated or not achieving goals.

Personality Quirks: Things that are innate to you that can affect your motivation.

Health Problems: Health problems such as depression, low blood sugar, hypothyroidism, gluten intolerance and brain inflammation which all can affect motivation.

Chapter Three: Chapter three describes some of the ways that you can find sources of motivation that will help you keep your motivation levels high against obstacles. Chapter three is all about getting to know yourself and finding out what your own personal sources of motivation are. Here are the ways that are suggested to find out that information.

• Meditation
• Write a Biography
• Study Religions
• Decide What’s Unique
• Make a Love List
• Make a Billionaire List
• Who Do You Admire?
• Imagine You’re Limitless
• Imagine Judgment Free
• Make a List of Accomplishments

Chapter Four: Chapter four outlines some of the tactics that you can use to increase your motivation even when you encounter obstacles.

Post a Photo – post a photo that represents your goal somewhere visible so it can remind you what you are striving for.

Start a Vlog – start a video blog on YouTube or some other site so that you can see your progress as you work towards your goal as well as have an audience of viewers to both support you and for you to answer to if you mess up.

Use the Reminder Method – Create a blog or keep a journal to remind yourself of why you started this journey in the first place.

Post Results Somewhere Visible – Post your results somewhere where you’ll see them daily.

Create a Routine – Create habits that help you reach your goals.

Chapter Five: Chapter five is all about being able to direct your motivation into sources that are actually going to help you reach your goals. We discussed spinning your wheels and how people often direct their energy into actions that aren’t actually going to result in them reaching their goal. A suggestion to follow was the backward planning method where you first determined what the very last step of your goal is to be, and then you figured out the step before that, and the step before that, so on and so forth.

Chapter Six: Chapter six talked about dividing your long-term and big goals into small, bite-sized goals to make them easier to achieve. Also, some good advice was given on making your goals to be realistic ones and not making them impossible to achieve.


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Brian Wood on Sustaining your Motivation for Long Periods of Time. Man From Mars Coaching

Chapter 6: Sustaining your Motivation for Long Periods of Time 

Some of your goals might be achieved within a few months and others will take years. Some life goals might even take decades. Throughout all of that, you are going to have to preserve and keep going on your goal for long periods of time, and years may not seem like a long time now, but when you are trying to work towards a goal daily, the days, weeks and months stretch out there and seem interminable. That’s why you are going to need a strategy to help you stay motivated over the long term, and the perfect way to do that is with bite-sized goals.

Before we get started on that, you should be aware of something. Many people when they are setting goals and trying to get motivated set unrealistic goals. That is going to be a huge problem for your motivation because you will know inside that you can’t achieve the goal, or at least, in the time allotted.

For example, if you are trying to lose a hundred pounds, setting a goal to achieve that in a month is absolutely unrealistic. No one can lose 25 pounds a week, no matter what kind of a diet they are on, and even if by some fluke, a person lost that much, there is no way it could be sustainable. Not to mention the fact that it would be extremely unhealthy.

This is also true of other goals that you might be considering. If you are trying to become independently wealthy, you should probably give yourself more than six months to get there, unless of course, you plan on using the lottery as your method for achieving that goal. Good luck with that. If your goal is to be a pop star, you aren’t going to get there next week or even next year if your pitch is bad. You will have to practice and take lessons and many other things on the road to stardom.

Bite-sized Goals

In order to achieve your goals without losing motivation, you are going to need to break them up into bite-sized pieces. Have you heard the old adage; how do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time of course. That’s the whole point here. If you think about all the steps involved in getting you to your goal and how long it will take to arrive there, you will probably get pretty discouraged. But when you break a goal down to bite-sized, you are able to basically just put one foot in front of the other without worrying too much about the destination. So, how is that done?

The first thing you need to do is have a plan from chapter five already completed. Since you know the major steps involved in achieving your goal, you can now break that step down into bite-sized segments. Let’s take the weight loss goal that we have been using throughout this entire chapter.

You have a weight loss goal section that says to lose 25 pounds. That might take two months, three months or even longer. No matter what your period of time is, that’s your goal segment – your point from achieving one milestone to achieving the next.

Now, if you wanted to break this particular weight loss goal down, you could make it simple: Lose 2 pounds per week, for a total of 12-13 weeks to achieve this goal. However, you don’t have to do it weekly if you would prefer not to. Instead, you can simply break the goal down into five equal segments of five pounds. 

This is basically how bite-sized goals work and whatever goal you are setting, you can always break it down further and give yourself a much smaller, more manageable and ultimately more achievable goal.

The last Episode is on its way, see you soon.

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Tactics to Increase Your Motivation with Brian Wood - Man From Mars Coaching

Chapter 4: Tactics to Increase Your Motivation

So far, you have learned what motivation is and where it comes from, and you have learned what sort of things can deplete motivation and where to look for a never-ending source of power to strengthen your motivation. But what about actual tactics to combat laziness, forgetfulness or whatever the problem is that is causing your lack of motivation.

It is likely that you will be familiar with some of these tactics already. Most people that have made goals and failed at achieving them are familiar with the theory behind increasing motivation, even if they haven’t actually tried any of the exercises listed here.

Your first step is to write down what it is you want. If you don’t set an achievable, measurable goal, then all of the motivation in the world isn’t going to help you. Think of motivation like the gasoline you put in your car. You can fill your car up with gas, you can even run the engine and idle in your driveway, or make all your neighbors mad by revving the engine. But without a destination, you’re not going anywhere. It is only when your car is full of gas, you have a destination in mind and you have a roadmap to get there that exciting things begin to happen.

So, let’s go over some exercises to help you remind yourself of why you are putting in all of this hard work.

Exercise #1: The Photo

Suppose that you want to lose weight. You see yourself in the mirror every day, you get on the scale once a week and you go grocery shopping a few times a month. Obviously, you know that a problem exists, but knowing about the problem doesn’t give you any excitement about doing what it takes to change it. Being able to look at the solution does.

Post a picture of yourself, or a picture of someone you want to look like if necessary, on you wall, refrigerator or door. Make it as big of a photograph as you possibly can and when you look at the photo every day, you will be motivated to make the changes. Even when you are feeling down, walking past this photo might be enough to get you excited again.

This doesn’t just work for weight loss either. If you want to be rich, post pictures of yacht, airplane, sports car or whatever else you want. If you want to be famous, Photoshop a picture of yourself on a movie poster and hang it up.

Exercise #2: The Vlog

Starting a vlog can be a great way to stay motivated. You can either keep a vlog for yourself, or you can post it online. This method has three advantages over some of the other methods here, particularly if you post online, but it also has a downside.

Advantages of Vlogging There are some serious advantages to going the vlog route. First, you’ll have a record of all of your past accomplishments on video and you can go back and look at them anytime. 

Again, with the weight loss example, suppose that you have lost 50 pounds and you suddenly find yourself unmotivated to do any more. You could go back and look at all of the progress that you have made so far and you might just get that motivation going again.

Another advantage to vlogging is that you are accountable to someone. In fact, if you publish on YouTube and you get a following, you will be accountable to a whole bunch of people. You can create vlogs detailing your progress and you will have more motivation to keep going because you know that you will be letting down your viewers if you mess up.

This is a great way to keep your motivation strong, but as mentioned, it does have a downside. If you do mess up, you are going to be embarrassed about it and you are going to have to face all of those people. If it is a small error, this might not be such a big deal, but if it is a major screw-up, you are going to have to explain yourself to your viewers.

There is one more thing to consider when deciding whether or not to use this method. You will have a support network already in place and your viewer comments and video responses may help keep you motivated when you need it the most.

Exercise #3: The Reminder Method

You could also do the reminder method, which is simply a way of keeping motivated about a project or goal by writing about it whenever you feel discouraged, or writing about it when you first make the goal so that you can read back and see what it is you wanted and why you are trying so hard to achieve it.

There are two methods to doing this, and either one is pretty effective. The first method is to keep a journal. Many people are already used to keeping a journal so this method might work for them better because they will remember to read and update their journal. Keeping a journal is a good idea anyway because you can write down your thoughts, impressions, and feelings and when you make it through a particularly hard obstacle on your way to achieving your goal you can read the journal to get some motivation.

The other method is to start an online blog. This one also has an advantage – the same advantage that video blogging has – that you’ll be accountable to people if you use a blog to journal and you get some followers. If this sounds appealing to you, all you need to do is sign up with one of the free blogging services or start your own website and install Wordpress or some other content management system.

Exercise #4: Posting Results

There is nothing like a list of your past achievements so far to keep you motivated and this particular method is effective because you are going to post your results somewhere visible. A whiteboard in your bedroom or study is perfect, but you can also print out your results on paper and post them somewhere you’ll see them.

You can use your refrigerator, the wall above your toilet, or even the ceiling if you can see them when you look up. No matter what your goal is you will be reaching little milestones on the way to it, and every time you reach one of those milestones you have created a track record that will keep you motivated from now on.

How you decide to post your results is up to you. If you are doing weight loss as a goal, you can create a chart where you write down your weight every week. If you are trying to become independently wealthy, you can write down milestones on the method that you are using to achieve that independence. No matter what your goal is, there is a way to post and track it somewhere on a wall where you are going to see it every day.

Exercise #5: Create a Routine

Creating a routine is also one of the best ways that can keep you motivated on your journey because the habits that you build will keep you going even when you don’t feel like it. Habits are hard to break as we found earlier in the example of the man who didn’t learn to brush his teeth. But the hard part is when you first begin because it does take some discipline to build a routine in the first place.

If you want to build a routine, it starts with setting daily goals. Figure out what you are going to do daily (in general, not specifically) and then make a time for you to do it. If you need to, make a schedule so that you’ll know where it fits in, or simply add it to your to-do list. It takes approximately four weeks to develop a habit, so you’ll need to be strong during those four weeks. After that, you will have a much easier time staying motivated because you’ll be in the habit of working towards your goal.

See you in Episode 5

B. Wood

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Brian Wood Man From Mars Coaching - How to Channel Your Motivation

Chapter 5: How to Channel Your Motivation

In this chapter, we’re going to talk about how you can channel your motivation most effectively. You could have an amazing amount of motivation, be able to overcome the obstacles that you’ll face with ease and still not reach your goals, because you are channeling your motivation into actions that will never get you anywhere.

It’s like the previous example that I used with the car. Channing your motivation into something that isn’t going to help you is like revving the engine on your car. You aren’t going to move unless you put it in gear, no matter how hard you press that accelerator, and you know what happens eventually? You run out of gas the same way that you run out of motivation if you aren’t achieving results.

So, how do you know where to channel your motivation? Weight loss has kind of been a theme throughout this book so let’s continue with the weight loss example. Here are some ways that people spin their wheels and rev their engines when they’re trying to lose weight, and odds are, you’ve probably tried at least one of these yourself.

• Fad Diets
• Exercise machines bought from TV
• Starving themselves
• YoYo Eating (dieting one day and binge-eating the next)

The problem that many people have is that they have no idea how to direct their motivation into something good. Often, people that are motivated work towards something that has no chance of getting them to their goal, or at least, will make it take longer for them achieve their goal, but they continue working at it because they don’t know how to direct their energy elsewhere.

Take for example, someone who wants to start a web design business. They are good at creating websites so they make several of them to show to potential clients. After a few weeks, they have a dozen or so sites creates, all on their own portfolio page and are ready to start getting business.

Since they don’t know exactly how to get business, they spend their time creating more sample websites. This is a perfect example of someone who is motivated but they spend their time and energy doing things that won’t further their success. The person in this example needs to do some research on how to cold call businesses and sell them on a website, or how to market himself online and get in front of people and get seen. It is likely that if he continues to make sample sites, graphics and whatever else, he is eventually going to get frustrated and give up.

Another example is a person that wants to write a novel. They aren’t sure what the plot of their novel is going to be, so they start by creating the world that their characters live in. They create this marvelous fantasy world, with its own maps, continents and bodies of water, its own system of government, rules of magic and much more, and at the end, they might have created an amazing world, but really what they needed was a basic sketch of fantasy land.

The bottom line here is that you need to have a plan for how you are going to achieve it. The plan is like your roadmap in the car example. You might have a destination and a car with gas in it, but unless you follow a roadmap, your chances of getting lost along the way are quite high.

Making a roadmap is different depending upon what kind of goal you are going after, but if you want to sustain long-term motivation, find a way to channel it into something that is actually going to bring you success in your endeavors. Here are some tips to help you do just that.

A great way to do goal planning is to follow a method that the United States military coined: It is called backward planning and it is one of the most effective ways to plan out your goal-achieving strategy.

You need to clearly define your goal. You can’t just say, “I want to lose weight” because that could mean anything, from losing a single pound to losing two hundred. You need to either specify the amount of weight that you want to lose or the amount that you want to weigh. Of course weight loss is just an example. The point is, you need to create a clear goal with an outcome that you can actually visualize and quantify, and put in a checklist.

Now, here is where the backward planning comes in. Determine what the last thing you’ll need to do before you reach your goal. Here are some examples

Weight Loss: The weight that you’ll weight in on your goal weight. You can clearly picture the end result – stepping on the scale and seeing the number that you have been working on for so many months – or years.

Publishing a Novel: The very last thing that you’ll do is approve the proofs that get sent to you. This will be what happens after all the writing, editing, rewriting and more editing.

Becoming Wealthy: Picture logging into your online banking and seeing a certain amount on your statement. The amount will differ depending upon how much you think it requires to be independently wealthy, and you can either choose to visualize how much you have saved up, or how much you are getting per month. Either way, it still gives you that end result.

What is the last thing just before that last step? You can look at the examples there and determine which ones go with which step.

From there, the process is rinse and repeat. If you can see what you need to do to achieve your goal, and the step before that, and the step before that, before too long you will have an entire step-by-step plan on how to achieve your goal. But it all starts with that very first, last, step.

See you next time in Episode 6

B. Wood

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How to Find a Source of Motivation That Is Effective for You with Brian Wood Man From Mars Coaching

Chapter 3: How to Find a Source of Motivation That Is Effective for You

If you want to become motivated you are going to have to find a source of motivation from which to draw from. Think of this motivation source like a bucket of water. Whenever you need a boost, you can dip your cup into this bucket and come up with some extra motivation. But that means that whatever is in the bucket is going to have to be some powerful stuff.

Earlier, we talked about the three sources of motivation and how these sources can fuel your motivation. But the problem with these sources is that they are already present. For example: you have a need to sleep at night, so you probably are motivated to work hard at your job and keep getting a paycheck so you can pay your rent. If you have an arousal need that promotes sexual desire, you might be more motivated to lose weight or get in shape.

Since these sources of motivation are already present, whether you want them or not, using them as your source is obviously not going to be effective, otherwise, you would have already achieved your goals. So, we have to find a new source of motivation that you can draw from.

The next chapter will give you some tips for staying motivated, like posting a picture of something you’re working for on your wall, but this isn’t what we’re talking about here. This is a deeper sort of thing, something that helps you get the motivation in the first place and get started. The way to best do this is by knowing yourself and what you want. Here are some exercises to help you.

Meditation: Many people laugh at the idea of meditation as a way to know yourself, but let’s put all of your preconceived notions aside. At its core, meditation is simply a period of time in which you are very still and very quiet. To ask the deeper questions about what you want in life requires quiet, because otherwise, you aren’t going to hear the answers. Try it and look deep into yourself and find out what you want, way down deep at the core.

Write a Biography: Suppose that you were going to die tomorrow and you had 1000 words to tell the world who you were and what you had wanted out of life. Take your time and really think about it. Sometimes, the act of writing about ourselves as if we were biographing someone else is not only cathartic, it can open us up to truths that we weren’t aware of before – at least consciously.

Study Religions: You don’t have to be a religious person to study religion. In fact, extremely religious people often have trouble studying other religions and especially looking at them objectively. But religions have been asking the question who we are and what we want out of life for much longer than you and I have been alive, and while you have to take most things with a very large grain of salt, you might find some truths in some religions – particularly Buddhism – that can help you figure out what you want from life.

What’s Unique? Decide what it is that is unique about you. This might help you see what it is you truly and deeply want. One of the side effects of discovering what is unique about us is that we can see what we can offer the world and what the world can give us in return.

Love List: Make a list of the things in life that you absolutely love. Things that make you excited and happy, that get you feeling like you are truly alive. It doesn’t matter what those things are. You have the freedom to write whatever you want including cooking, playing sports, teaching, learning, whatever. Hidden in this love list, you will find some deeper truths about what you want out of life.

A Billionaire: Consider this: what would you do if you had a billion dollars in the bank? You would never have to worry about working again, and your bills would all be paid, plus you would have enough money to do whatever you wanted to, finance whatever you wanted, from starting a business of some kind to making a big budget movie. So, what would you do, where would you go and what would you care about if you had a billion dollars?

Your Admiration: Who are the five people in the world you most admire? Write them down on a list and then decide what qualities each one of them have that makes you admire them so much. Then, look at those qualities as if they were something that you yourself were working towards (and perhaps they are). These qualities may give you some great clues as to what you want out of life, deep down.

You’re Limitless: Imagine that you had no limits whatsoever on your life. Whatever those limits are, remove them. If you have always wanted to be a rock-and-roll singer, but you have no vocal talent, remove that limitation! If you have always wanted to run marathons but you are stuck in a wheelchair, remove that limitation too. Now, once you have removed your limits and written down what it is you truly want, can you tell where your deep down motivation comes from?

Judgment Free: If you knew that absolutely no one would judge you, what would you stand for? What causes would you announce to the world that you believe in? Remember, no one will judge you, no matter what it is that you stand up for. Write down a list of several things that you absolutely believe in and would be vocal about if you weren’t fearful of being judged.

My Accomplishments: Make a list of your greatest accomplishments. In the things that you have already done, you can find motivation for doing more things in the future. Write down everything that was a particular challenge for you to achieve, not necessarily something that is usually difficult for everyone. Anytime you have succeeded, particularly against all odds, put it on paper. Then evaluate and see if you can see deeper meaning and motivation from those accomplishments.

Episode 4 is coming soon,

B. Wood